A
simple but effective tool for disciples is the learning circle.
Life
is moving through chronological time between birth and death, when it is
interrupted by a kairos moment, a time of heightened awareness of the
moment, where time appears to stand still. This can be because we are having
the time of our life, or because we are stuck in a fog of grief, or because a pandemic
has led to the suspension of normal life and we are held in lockdown for our
own safety and the safety of others. And this interruption, like an X on a
treasure map, marks the place to dig.
The
first step is to observe the situation carefully; then to reflect
on our initial observations; making sure to discuss these with another
person or persons whose judgement you trust, because we all have blind-spots.
However, we are seeking more than sympathy, or even empathy. Together, we need
to come up with a realistic plan of what we are going to do; ask that
person or persons to help us by holding us to account to do what we have
agreed; and then, act accordingly. This brings us back to where we began
— hence a circle (the first hemisphere describes metanoia, or how we
come to change our mind; the second hemisphere describes pistis, or how
we begin to live differently as a consequence of this) — now equipped to move forward as
one who is learning from life.
Here
is an example:
Lockdown
+n days. I observe that I am missing my friends. As I reflect on this, I
realise that even as a profoundly introvert person, I need social connection;
and perhaps to empathise with others in the same situation, including those who
are more extravert in personality. So, we begin to discuss this online, via
social media, sharing our experience, need for others, and desire to be there
for one another too. Which is great, but of extremely limited help if that is
as far as it goes. For one thing, those who feel isolated tend to isolate themselves
further. What we need is to come up with a plan. Someone suggests a zoom party.
The idea gets pushed back and forth a bit, needing someone to organise it, and
others to commit to it, until a plan is hatched; along with the structure in
place to ensure that it happens; and then it does. And, having happened, we can
learn from that, too, and perhaps duplicate or adapt the plan, going forward.
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