Long, but seasonal.
It may be too early for some, but
Christmas is coming, and I have already seen cartoons circulating poking fun at
poor Joseph getting a frosty reception from Mary for having forgotten to book a
room in the inn.
It is a tired old image, used to
justify the widely-held (by men and women alike) cultural idea of men as
incompetent fathers or last-minute Christmas shoppers, unable to plan, yet
somehow always managing to get away with it, at least in their own eyes.
But British cultural Joseph couldn’t
be further from the truth. Here is a man hand-chosen by God, just as much as
Mary was, in a careful plan, generations in the making.
Joseph is a descendent of king David.
David’s line has long since had the throne stripped from them as a consequence
of their unfaithfulness towards God, but the hope of restoration remains, no
more so than in David’s hometown of Bethlehem. David is the one who wanted to
build a house for the Lord, but was not permitted to do so, on account of
having blood on his hands, the blood of Uriah husband of Bathsheba. Instead,
the Lord permits David’s son by Bathsheba, Solomon, to build a temple David
plans and prepares for.
That in itself is a redemption story.
But David’s faithful descendant Joseph is—listen to this—a builder of houses—and
the one entrusted with guiding Jesus through the transformation from
God-with-us in a tent (which is how the Prologue to John’s Gospel describes the
coming of Jesus) to the one who will build God’s house, the Church.
Joseph is from Bethlehem, but he has
travelled to Nazareth to be betrothed to Mary. In that culture, bridegrooms
would then return to their parental home, and build a new extension in which
they would begin a new life before returning to fetch their bride. Extended
family generations sometimes created a compound of (essentially) one-roomed
dwellings, around one or more courtyards. Things go somewhat differently for
Joseph.
First, he discovers that the girl he
is betrothed to is pregnant, and he is not the father. This is clearly a cause
of distress to him, but his response is that of a righteous man. After prayer
and reflection, he resolves to break off the betrothal quietly, in such a way
as to protect Mary from scandal and, potentially, from death threats. But then
an angel, a messenger from God, comes to him in a dream and convinces him to
take Mary as his wife and to raise the child, for this is God’s plan.
In the meantime, Mary has travelled
to her relative Elizabeth, nearer to Bethlehem. Elizabeth is also unexpectedly
pregnant. They may each help shield the other from unwanted attention.
Further complicating matters, a
periodic Roman census is called (the most famous of these, though almost
certainly not this one, occurred under Quirinius, Governor of Syria) and Joseph
heads to his home in Bethlehem—to register where he lived—taking Mary with him.
(No census called for a return to your place-of-origin; empires want to know
who lives where, not where they originate from.)
In all these circumstances, there may
not have been time for Joseph to build a new home for his bride. And so they
lodge with family, most likely Joseph’s immediate family although any family in
Bethlehem would have welcomed a son of David. Families lived all together in a
single room, with animals such as a small cow and goats kept at a lower level
at one end (providing warmth at night, as well as protection for the animals)
and a guest room either at the other end from the animals or on the flat roof.
This is the room were Mary and Joseph were staying. Not an inn where travellers
paid to sleep on a shared floor, but the guest room of a family home.
However, this room was too small for
Mary to give birth, attended to by the women and girls of the home and the
women who served the community as midwives, and so Jesus was born in the main
room at the heart of his extended family at the heart of a community eagerly
anticipating a descendant of David to whom God would restore the throne.
That night, the whole town rejoiced.
And there, the young family lived, for a couple of years, Joseph building a
home, to which in time a caravan of astrologers from royal courts to the east
came to honour the birth of a new king of the Jews. This greatly disturbed the
king on the throne, a paranoid vassal of Rome, who (we are told) ordered that
every infant in and around Bethlehem be massacred. That is when the hopes and
dreams of David’s community bled out.
(This is why the Prologue of John’s
Gospel speaks of all those who recognised Jesus’ coming to his people, as well
as those who did not recognise, or acknowledge, him.)
But once again, Joseph is visited by
night by an angel, and, so warned, gathers up his little family and flees as a
refugee to the Jewish diaspora community in Egypt. Here is a man who knows when
it is wisest to run away. And there they live until after Herod the Great dies,
when they—perhaps by now already joined by the next of Jesus’ brothers and
sisters—set out for Bethlehem; though on discovering that Herod’s most unstable
heir is ruling there, they continue north and build a life in Nazareth, close
to Mary’s side of the family.
Joseph is a remarkable man; a
remarkable husband and father; a remarkable friend and trusted covenant partner
to God. He has been on my mind today.