Since
2009/10, The Children’s Society has published an annual, longitudinal report of
the wellbeing of children and young people in the UK. They look at:
evaluative
wellbeing – thoughts and evaluations about how life is going;
affective
wellbeing – ‘good’ and ‘bad’ feelings and emotions; and
eudaimonic
wellbeing – a sense of meaning in life, such as, do I have a sense of purpose?
strong relationships? self-belief?
The
latest report, just published and available online, shows that our children and
young people have significantly poorer levels of wellbeing than they did
fifteen years ago, and that our fifteen-year-olds have lower levels of
wellbeing than their peers across 27 European nations.
Jesus
was a rabbi, which means master, or, one who had mastered life. One, we might
say, who had a high level of wellbeing, and when other people spent time with
him their wellbeing levels increased too. Someone you might look at and say,
they seem to have their sh*t together. Life isn’t simply happening to them, or
around them, but they are living purposefully, a life with meaning. Like most
rabbis at the time, he did this in the context of a very ordinary life, in
Jesus’ case as a stone mason and carpenter in a small community.
Of
course, Jesus wasn’t the only person who was seeking to live life purposefully.
It wasn’t an unusual idea. Wellbeing isn’t a new idea; it is an ancient one. In
Hebrew it is expressed as shalom. Jesus wasn’t the only person seeking to love
God fully and love other people deeply. Many people were.
One
such group was the Pharisees. They advocated that the ritual practices by which
the priests in the temple at Jerusalem kept themselves oriented towards God,
and symbolically remade the world – that gave them a strong eudaimonic
wellbeing that in turn strengthened their evaluative wellbeing and affective
wellbeing – should be adopted by all Jews in every place.
The
biographer Mark records some Pharisees asking Jesus why his disciples didn’t
observe such rituals? (See Mark 7.) In particular, why didn’t they ritually
wash their hands (note, this is not a matter of hygiene) before eating a meal
that involved bread (an extension of the priestly practice of washing their
hands before handling grain offerings). For the benefit of his non-Jewish
audience, Mark mentions some other examples of ritual practice observed by the
Pharisees. The point is not, look how ridiculous these people were, how wrong
they had got it! The point is that whatever their own cultural background, the
audience might recognise the human tendency to depend on certain rituals –
including twenty-first century secular Western societies. It is meant as an
a-ha! moment.
Jesus
responds by calling people out as hypocrites, that is, actors who present a
mask to the world. It is important to note that this is not a dismissal of
Judaism (or even a dismissal of Pharisaism). Jesus was a Jew. His disciples
were Jews. They observed a kosher diet and played a full part in the ritual
world of their culture, including the key events and celebrations that
strengthen communal wellbeing. This is an internal debate between people with a
shared vested interest in promoting wellbeing (shalom).
Jesus
lists several harmful behaviours that result from poor wellbeing, or the
absence of shalom – behaviours which the Pharisees would also have been
concerned about – as evidence that ritual alone is inadequate and can even be
harmful when it allows us to deceive ourselves as to what is going on On The
Inside. Certainly, fixating on ritual is unhealthy.
One
of the significant things about the findings of The Children’s Society is
seeing children and young people brave enough to take off the masks we hide
behind to Present a Brave Face, or a toxically positive outlook, as we so often
see – and is so damaging to wellbeing – on social media.
If
we are to help them grow a healthier evaluative, affective, and eudaimonic
wellbeing, ritual will have a part to play. For my part, I love welcoming
children to communion, in which I am led by their desire to take part. But it
starts – as all love starts – with hearing. Really hearing. (As in, Hear, O
Israel...) Not being quick to mould them into our image, bent out of shape as
it is, but recognising the likeness of God in them. They are the canary in the
mine.