Saturday, December 22, 2007
When I am with my newly-met college friends, who I am growing to love, I feel the absence of my wife.
And when I am at home with my wife, who, still after all these years, I am growing to love, I feel the absence of my college friends.
It is not that when I am with my friends I wish I were with my wife instead; or that when I am with my wife I wish I was with my friends instead; as if I were perpetually unable to live in the moment.
It is that being in the presence of one you love is a weightless experience  . Whereas being in the absence of one you love is a weighty experience.
To bear the
is to choose
to bear the
Come, Lord Jesus!
 we understand this most clearly in relation to romantic love, where we even speak of the sensation of “walking on air”
 as opposed to being in the presence of one you fear, which is a heavy burden